We are surrounded by things that can trigger anger. Some are small: rush hour traffic, lost keys, maybe a broken dishwasher. These minor annoyances cause frustration in our daily lives. Other triggers are more serious: a painful divorce or children with behavioral issues.
Whatever the cause of our anger, we all experience negative emotions at some time. Left unchecked, anger can build, and when these feelings are pent up over time, they can take hold of your physical and mental state.
3 Ways to Overcome Anger:
- Change your Mindset. Take each thought captive and purpose yourself to think positively. Whenever a negative thought comes into your mind, force yourself to replace it with a positive thought. For example, if you are angry that your child decided to use her crayons to add some “artwork” to your walls, replace those negative thoughts with feelings of thankfulness for a healthy child and a roof over your head. This does not change the situation, but it frees you from the feelings of anger that can steal your joy and rob you of a happy life. You cannot control everything that happens in your life, but you can change how you react.
- Change your Language. Eliminate don’t, not, and no from your vocabulary and begin phrasing things positively. This will greatly impact your perspective and has an empowering effect. Rather than focusing on what you don’t want, envision what you do want and strive to attain that.
- Find a resolution. The best way to do this is by first seeking closure on the issue you are angry about. Once you solve the problem, it is important to let it go. It is important to move on. If you continue to dwell in the past, those feelings of anger will continually be resurfacing. Forgive the people who cause you pain and then move forward.
We will never be able to completely eliminate sources of anger from our lives, but we can break the habits we have formed of how we respond to these annoyances. Anger is the thief of joy, and overcoming anger gives you freedom to enjoy your life and live each day to the fullest.
When you face situations where anger arises, what do you do to get rid of it?